If you see your partner engaging in any of the behaviours or activities listed below, you may be at risk for abuse:
-
Drives fast or does other scary things
-
Accuses you of lying
-
Demands to know where you are at all times
-
Constantly becomes jealous, angry, or tries to isolate you when you want to spend time with your friends or family
-
Cannot laugh at themselves
-
Finds it hard to apologize or take responsibility when they’ve done something wrong
-
Makes fun of other people and enjoys humour that embarrasses others including yourself
-
Speaks badly about other people in your life so that you won’t associate with them anymore
-
Has a bad temper
-
Constantly finds fault in you or in others
-
Always has to win, and is generally over-competitive with your time and attention
-
Refuses to discuss their feelings and then blows up when you push the subject
-
Disapproves or tries to control how you spend your money or how you dress
-
Acts as if they know everything but are actually very insecure
-
Threatens to harm you or themselves if you leave the relationship; may threaten suicide
-
Twists the truth to make you feel you are to blame for their actions
-
Uses phrases like “if you really loved me you would…”
-
Calls you names that are offensive or derogatory
-
Humiliates or embarrasses you in front of other people
-
Threatens you with physical violence, abandonment, or harm to others you love
-
Threatens to harm themselves if you don’t comply with their wishes
-
Blames you for their actions or mistakes
-
Degrades your sexuality / sexual orientation
-
Threatens to infect you with an illness, such as a sexually transmitted disease
-
Withholds medication, or threatens to withhold medication
-
Pressures you into having sexual contact you do not want
-
Becomes violent or controlling when she/he is under the influence of drugs or alcohol
-
Is violent towards other people or animals
-
Steals money from you, or does not allow you access to your own money
-
Attempts to forbid you from working or making money
Answering yes to any number of these questions may indicate that you are in an abusive relationship. Get help now.